Your friend, sister, or daughter just told you she is pregnant.

You may be shocked or disappointed in her. Think about how she is feeling too.  She is facing an overwhelming situation and needs you right now!  Perhaps she has told you she is considering abortion or is seeking out an abortion.  You can show her how much you love her by trying not to overreact to her pregnancy, by reassuring her of your confidence in her, and by avoiding blaming or condemning her.   You can be her advocate.  You can do this by helping her make a list of the pros and cons of all her options regarding her pregnancy.  Try to create a non-threatening atmosphere, listen to her feelings and plans, and encourage her to make careful, thoughtful, and logical decisions.  Remember you are not alone in facing this situation.